The Advantages of a Long Lived Community

by Paxus

from Your Passport to Complaining

Many independent filmmakers and corporate media sources have made videos about Twin Oaks.  Today, I am promoting an unusually revealing video crafted by the  Crossroad America project; two filmmakers working in all 50 states in a single summer.  They have captured something I had not seen about my home of the last 27 years, before.

Sean (who is not yet a member) is the new face of Twin Oaks

The 19 minute feature interviews several of my favorite communards describing the Twin Oaks  to folks who might be curious about us.  This well edited Vlog gives a quick tour of some of the communities sharing systems.  This tour format is what most filmmakers use who visit and it is an accessible way to understand us. And different filmmakers are excited about different facets of community living.  For example,  the BBC loved Commie Clothes


But what is especially powerful is Tigger describing losing his daughter Gwen.  Through the lens of this tragedy, he sees clearly the importance of the community he has been in for decades.

The Advantages of a Long Lived Community

Haircut, Tiny House, Culty, The Trail, and The Internet

by Raven

This is the week the pictures went back on Facebook–not because Facebook brought them back, but because I realized that I could put them there. I did and I think that our statistics improved.

They certainly did well for a simple post about a haircut at Twin Oaks.

This post did very, very well on Facebook, with five likes, two loves, two comments, and nearly three hundred views.

Cambia’s a small community that hasn’t been doing well and I haven’t mentioned in a while, but then Paxus wrote an article about it, so I reposted it here.

You can read the original post Paxus wrote for more details.

This post did okay with two loves and a like, and a hundred and thirty-nine views.

Stephan from Twin Oaks wrote a post about how you can tell if a community is a cult, or as he put it, “culty”.

You might want to read the whole article which looks at each of the questions and then Stephan talks about how Twin Oaks does in relation to being culty.

This did good, with five likes, a love, a wow, and a hundred and seventy-three views.

Meanwhile, East Wind posted about going to the Appalachian Trail with their nut butters.

This also did very, very well (probably not surprising with some lovely pictures) and got five loves (including one from East Wind Nut Butters), thirteen likes, and two hundred and seventy-six views.

Finally, Twin Oaks is still in fire recovery mode–but they have the internet back.

This post did okay with four likes, two loves, and a hundred and thirteen views. Not super great but at least we got over a hundred views on every post this week. I guess having pictures makes some difference.

Haircut, Tiny House, Culty, The Trail, and The Internet

Message, Cashews, Vision, and a Crossword

by Raven

This is the last week of Facebook posts without pictures (I’ll talk about the fix next week) and we didn’t do too badly. I also included a commune crossword puzzle

Acorn posted one of their usual artsy/ambiguous posts on Instagram and I reposted it on our Facebook feed with my interpretation.

This did well enough on our Facebook feed, with two likes, a love, and almost a hundred and sixty views.

East Wind Nut Butters posted a message about cashews that I didn’t know.

This did very well (best viewed post of the week) with four likes, a wow, two comments, and nearly two hundred and thirty views.

Serenity Solidarity has a website and I saw that they had a page with some statements about themselves, so I put a link to it on our Facebook feed.

This did okay. It got only one love but it got a hundred and twenty-three views.

Finally, since the pop quiz on communes I put up on Facebook almost three months ago did so well, I got ambitious and created a crossword puzzle. Honestly, among other reasons for doing this, it gives me two days worth of posts when I’m desperately looking for material. So here’s the puzzle.

Okay, before we go any further, here’s your chance to try to solve the puzzle. The answers are below.

This post did just okay with four likes and a hundred and fifteen views.

Okay, how did you do?

The completed puzzle is below my repetition of the clues.

Apparently, more people liked the pop quiz than the crossword puzzle. (I’m surprised, I thought crosswords were popular.) In fact more people looked at the clues than the answers. This only got two likes and just over a hundred views

Message, Cashews, Vision, and a Crossword

Gardening, Garlic, Upkeeping, Lexing, and a Festival

by Raven

We’ve gotten to the week where Facebook changed things on us. I don’t know if we did something wrong or what, but suddenly we weren’t getting pictures from outside posts. One day, if we reposted something here, Facebook put a picture with it and then suddenly they didn’t. If I added a picture they put it on but they didn’t copy it from any other site. As far as I can tell, other folks still get pictures on reposts, so it makes me wonder if Facebook has a problem with us doing it.

The first few posts came with pictures and the first one was a Twin Oaks post advertising one of their member’s blogs, that of Pam, the master gardener.

This did okay on Facebook, with five likes, two loves, two shares, and a hundred and four views. Not great, but okay.

Our second post was from Acorn’s Instagram, claiming that Justin Bieber was visiting. (Would Facebook get upset about that? You’d think they’d go after Acorn, not us.)

This didn’t quite make it, with just one wow and ninety-nine views.

The last post where Facebook reposted a pic was when we reposted Eastwind’s description of their House and Maintenence work. It’s on their website and the photo Facebook associated with it is the one that is at the top of all of the pages on the site with the title “Eastwind Community” and the links to other pages on it. Facebook just reprinted the site photo without the captions.

If there was a problem with that, as far as I can tell, that was Facebook’s doing.

Here’s what I wrote.

And here’s a snippet from their House and Maintenence page, along with the photo I would have selected.

It didn’t do badly at all, with four likes, four loves, three comments, and a hundred and sixty-six views.

So what went wrong?

The next day we reposted something from Twin Oaks. It seemed innocent enough. They had a picture of Debbie from Living Energy Farm LEXing (doing a Labor EXchange) at Twin Oaks. They had the picture, we didn’t. All we got was:

That’s the usual thing Facebook puts when we repost something from Facebook, except there used to be a picture underneath. This time there wasn’t.

Here’s what we wrote followed by what Twin Oaks had on their site.

In spite of the lack of a picture on our site, this did pretty well, with five likes, three loves, one comment, and a hundred and eighty-four views.

I thought that this was just a one-off thing from Facebook, but the next day it happened again with an Instagram repost from Acorn. And we haven’t had any pictures on any reposts since. (Although, if we create the post and add pics, they show up.)

Anyway, here’s the Acorn repost, starting with what I wrote on Facebook.

And here’s some of what Acorn wrote as well as the picture that only showed up on their Instagram page.

It didn’t do great, but I’m not sure if that had anything to do with the lack of a picture on our FB page. It did about as well as our previous Acorn repost, which had a pic. It got five likes, one love, but only ninety-seven views.

I’m not going to complain in future posts, but know that Facebook no longer passes pictures on to our feed, unless we actually put them there.

Gardening, Garlic, Upkeeping, Lexing, and a Festival

Call for Presenters – Communities Conference

by Paxus

from Your Passport to Complaining

The Twin Oaks Communities Conference is looking for presenters for this year’s event. If you are confident you should be presenting, please fill out this form. The event is Aug 30 thru Sept 1st, 2024

If you are unsure, the following article introduces the culture of the event and background to help you decide. The application deadline is July 15. Submissions are considered on a rolling basis so early responses are encouraged. 

Please note this is the Call for Presenters of curated workshops on intentional communities. The Communities Conference has two types of workshops, these IC specific curated workshops which are selected in advance and Open Space workshops on any topic. The Open Space technique self selects for each workshop’s audience, so all are welcome to present on Sunday of the event. So if you hate filling out forms, aren’t sure yet what topic you’d like to focus on, or don’t want to be constrained by having your workshop focused in large part on intentional communities, the Open Space section of workshops is likely best for you. These are the curated workshops back in 2022.

We are especially looking for workshops on the two 2024 topic threads/themes:

  • How can communities network more effectively? 
  • How can our communities be more equitable and diverse?

Source: Cassandre Tor

Twin Oaks Communities Conference (TOCC) is looking for some compelling workshop presenters on the topic of intentional community. Perhaps you are asking yourself “Am I a talented workshop presenter?”, but there are other considerations as well. 

Here are some ways you can tell if your workshop might be a good fit for the TOCC:

Are you on topic? Let’s say you are an expert in sustainable building design, every community needs these types of structures, you have done dozens of workshops and seminars on how to design and build sustainable structures of many types. Certainly, it would seem you are an appropriate presenter for this event, but not necessarily. Here is an example of a sustainable design workshop specifically for ecovillages.

The focus of this event is Intentional Communities (self-selecting, place-based, residential communities who share material and cultural things). The only way a workshop on sustainable design fits our program is if it demonstrates how this technology serves the needs of ICs specifically. The intentional community focus needs to be baked into the content of the workshop.

Are you flexible? We’re looking for workshop facilitators that can sense the energy level of the participants. Does it look like a playful group? Perhaps games and simulations will be helpful. Is this a serious (perhaps intense) group or topic? A Q&A or a hotseat format could be more appropriate. Conversely, perhaps the opposite prescription will work – the serious and intense folks could lighten up with games. 

The point is that you as the workshop presenter want to build a good connection with your participants and tailor your presentation to the group you have before you. One way to do this is with a go round (if there are less than 20 people), where you could ask everyone for a single sentence about why they are in the workshop. Their answers will guide you to adjust your presentation for their level of expertise and their areas of excitement.

Networking – Surreal (source: https://www.onedirectory.com/blog/internal-networking/)

Reflect on Impact Is it possible that you are going to share an exercise that will engage your participants beliefs or behavior? Is it likely they will be amused and entertained? We’re looking for workshops that will lead participants towards a greater understanding of themselves and how they present in community. How can we have more healthy and transparent relationships with fellow communitarians? How can libraries of shared material goods be created so we are living more sustainably and cooperatively? Can we be in romantic relationships with more than one person, in the same place? What are the details we can learn and share to live together more cooperatively? 

Are you an expert giving instructions, or a guide? What we’re looking for are interactive workshops that draw from the participants, or a guide helping the group explore. Most successful TOCC presentations begin with the premise that “The truth is in the room”. If your plan is to give a 90 minute lecture in a 90 minute workshop block, this is the wrong event for you to present at. We’re hoping for workshops that introduce participants to ideas that they perhaps have never considered before or advance beliefs which are challenging or engage everyone in the space, including the presenter. We’ve found that open-ended questions and role plays are methods that work well with our participants.

Not a fancy event: The conference will provide chairs, rain protection, white boards, and, with advance notice, some sound system, but we’re in quite a rustic environment. Your powerpoint presentation, for example, might dictate which workshop time slot your workshop will need to be in.

It’s important to us to maintain the low cost and low overhead for this conference, so we cannot afford to pay you to present. Presenters of curated workshops receive a free ticket to the conference. While paid travel reimbursement (such as plane or bus tickets) is unlikely, we can usually help coordinate transportation for presenters- especially those on the east coast or who are coming from an area near an established intentional community.

Call for Presenters – Communities Conference

Alpha Farm Interview

Alpha Farm is an income-sharing community that has been around since 1972. It was not part of the Federation of Egalitarian Communities for some reason that I don’t understand but seemed like it had to do with communal politics. In this video two members are being interviewed by two members of The Garden, another very interesting community, and the two communities are being compared and contrasted.

Alpha Farm Interview

Devastating Fire at Twin Oaks

from The Leaves of Twin Oaks #132
March 2024‍
Fire at Twin Oaks by Anna
On Wednesday afternoon March 20th 2024, tragedy struck Twin Oaks when a nearby wild fire spread to our property, completely destroying our warehouse complex, our sawmill and our conference site. Over 200 acres burned through the night, forcing the entire community to evacuate. Luckily, no people, pets or residences were damaged. While we do have a disaster fund, the damage we’re facing is devastatingly huge. The structures destroyed include our large warehouse complex, our sawmill, 4 vehicles, our kilns, a hoop-house, a functioning outdoor kitchen and pavilion at the conference site, countless storage structures including 3 barns and 2 trailers, and many other small structures. We are estimating a loss of more than a million dollars. This loss also means the end of our 57-year old hammocks business, which was Twin Oaks’ beating heart for many decades since its foundation in 1967. Other Twin Oaks businesses experienced losses as well, but will most likely recover.‍Devastating fire at our industrial site
Our  industrial center, Emerald City, is on fire

We have yet to understand the full scope of this tremendous loss, and are grieving the parts of our community that have been destroyed. If you would like to donate to us to support the community financially, we would greatly appreciate it. Donations will go towards infrastructure repairs and other expenses addressing the financial loss of the hammocks business.

You can donate directly to the community’s bank account by clicking the following link:

tinyurl.com/twinoaksfire

Personal Account by Jane
This is a personal account of one member’s experience of the fire on March 20th. This is based on my recollection of events, as well as voice memos I took during this time. So it is possible I am missing details or misremembering events.
March 20th started like most Wednesday’s for me–waking up early to drive to Charlottesville. I work at the Cville Ballet, and I spend most Wednesdays managing the costume inventory for the upcoming student showcase. When I left, I was looking forward to my RET meeting (Racial Equity Team) to debrief some events in the previous few days. (Spoiler alert, we didn’t end up having that meeting.)‍ 
As I got off the highway and drove down Shannon Hill Road around 3:45, I started to see smoke in the distance. Instantly my mind jumped to the previous brush fire that happened back in September.
Emerald City destroyed
Vehicles and buildings destroyed

As I got closer, I realized it was coming from West Old Mountain Road. Out of curiosity, I turned left instead of continuing to Yanceyville Road. As I drove, I remember vividly when I saw the fire, blazing orange just past the driveway at EC. I screamed, hitting the brakes. It was a low burning fire, but suddenly a gust of wind came and blew the flames up towards the leaves in the trees. Once that happened, I drove away, and parked at the frisbee field to recollect myself. I can see in my call history I called 911 at 3:58, and according to other Oakers, EC was on fire by 4:18.‍

It was definitely weird to pull up to the courtyard and see the swarms of people with go bags and pet carriers. I take class at CBA, so all I had was my leotard, tights, and dance shoes. Thankfully I had my laptop and wallet, but my mind flashed to the precious items in my room like my medication, gifts from my deceased grandmother, and my passport. Would I be allowed to go up and get them?
Stretcher planer and ruined building
Destroyed wood-working machine with ruined workshop / warehouse in background

There was lots of milling around, and at some point we were moved across the road. At this point I had gone to move a car, and when I came back, my bag was missing. In the end it was my Twin Oaks family that moved it, but the stress of the day overcame me and I started crying on the hammock’s loading dock. All I had was my phone and the clothes on my back! Thankfully I found Scott, my partner, and Anna and Michael, my two dear friends, and they helped calmed me down. Once we got to the other side of the road, my missing bag was found.‍It was hard to pass the time. At one point my partner and I went for a walk down by the river, and when we came back, everyone was gone! It was the first time I felt hopeful, that maybe things were turning around. When we got back to the courtyard though, I had a mission. The threat of evacuation still loomed, and I needed my medication. Other Oakers had been stopped from going up the hill, but I was determined. Kathryn was taking roll of everyone, so I informed her that Scott, Khaleesi (Scott’s dog), and I would be going to Kaweah for my meds. Thankfully, we made it without incident, and good timing- when we returned to the courtyard, the police were instructing us to evacuate.

I knew I wanted to be with people I was closest to, but what about Khaleesi? Where would we bring the dog? In a moment of panic I said “I’m not evacuating! I don’t care!” Adder and Hawina, two members with more sense than me at that moment, told me I would evacuate with everyone because not doing so would be risking my life. I’m glad they were there to talk some sense into me. We debated over the various locations, and when I heard Kathryn shout “two more spots at acorn!” I said “me and Scott and Khaleesi!” We all climbed into a van with a motley crew of Oakers: McCune, Eve, Steve, Shal, Valerie, Scott, me, and Khaleesi the dog and Mitzi the cat. Valerie, Scott, and I sat on the floor of the trunk, and tried to keep ourselves occupied with jokes.‍Once we got to Acorn, I got us a room in Heartwood. There were multiple other dogs and cats in the steel building, and I knew Khaleesi would not be able to relax. I had a good chat with Ira and Scott-Acorn, who were just as incredulous as I was that the whole thing was happening. Taiga, Anande, Telos, and others from Acorn helped us get set up in a room and showed us where food could be found, which I really appreciated. I didn’t realize until we got to Acorn around 8:30 that I hadn’t had lunch or dinner that day.

I fell asleep pretty quick, and when we woke up, discovered that the evacuation order had been lifted around midnight and everyone else went home. At first I was excited, thinking the drama was finally over, until I checked my phone and saw the three different emails saying the same thing: “EC is gone”. I couldn’t really process what that meant, until I saw it for myself later that day. What do you mean, it’s gone? How is that possible?‍
Ropemaking Twister ruined
Ropemaking Twister ruined

Once we got home, I was in a bit of a daze. I was supposed to be doing rax desk (customer service for SESE wholesale) but with the internet destroyed, it was impossible. Thankfully, I was able to use a hotspot and email customers with outstanding wooden rack orders, and explain that they wouldn’t be getting racks anytime soon. It wasn’t until later that day that I realized our digital archive machine was hosted at EC. I frantically texted Adder, the IT manager, to see if anything had been saved- he responded no, I’m so sorry, but the database is gone. It was gut wrenching to me- the thing I was most proud of in archives, gone in an instant. Thankfully, all the scans and physical papers were backed up and safe, but the servers and software to read those papers and my cataloging system is gone.

I’ve been mostly trying to get back into my normal routines. I brought my goddaughter and main primary kid, Xena, to the library two days after the fire. It was a great way to escape from the stress for a few hours, and pretend things were the same. And I’ve been doing my k shifts, managing archives, and shipping orders, just like I did before the fire. But then it’ll pop back into my head, or I’ll smell smoke from a toaster, and the memories come flooding back. I moved to Twin Oaks 9 months ago, and I wonder now- when I reflect back, will I even remember what life was like before the fire? Or will it be a hazy memory, life before the end of so much we took for granted here? Only time will tell. ‍

Devastating Fire at Twin Oaks

Leaves of Twin Oaks #131

Winter 2023-4 newsletter header
News of the Oaks by Valerie
Movement Support by Ollie
Coldvember by JaneState of the Commune by Valerie
News of the Oaks by Valerie
We’re continuing to have a rise in membership. With around 75 members there’s a lot going on. 
Celebrations  New member Ollie has been hosting “Gay Bar” parties, giving us all a chance to dance and show off our fabulous outfits  We celebrated Steve’s 80th birthday—he is a huge Grateful Dead fan and we had our in-house Grateful Dead cover band play for the evening, and looked at photos of Steve’s long life  We do not celebrate Thanksgiving here; instead we observe the National Day of Mourning with an afternoon of videos by and about Indigenous people, with discussion. We held our Gratitude Feast later in November and hosted many friends and ex-members for the dinner, which included the ever-popular “Ping-Pong Table of Desserts.” 
Gratitude feast dessert tableGratitude feast dessert tableRaen makes pestoRaen makes pestoDay of Mourning posterDay of Mourning poster
 We had our yearly “Art Walk”, in which members display various art they have been creating, and we have a walking tour through the community to admire peoples’ creations. 
Farm Life New member Raen has been making good use of our greens by making pestos using our home-grown basil, spinach, cress and tat soi (an Asian green similar to bok choy), and we have been enjoying this nutritious and delicious treat  We’ve also had 2 new baby calves born, adding to the herd we keep for dairy/meat purposes. ‍‍‍
Movement We have been offering a multitude of movement classes lately. We’re currently having regular Capoeira, Aikido, and Yoga, as well as a Ballet class for some of the kids here  And in a different type of movement, we recently instituted a Racial Justice Orientation session as part of our Visitor Program, as a way of moving ourselves along the path of becoming an anti-racist community. ‍Art Walk 2023One display for Art Walk 2023
 Movement Support: Political Activism by Ollie
New member Ollie has become manager of Movement Support which is one of the more unusual areas through which Twin Oakers can get labor credits. While most labor areas are for activities that benefit the community directly (garden, the Seed Racks business, etc.) Movement Support is designed to give labor credits and money to members who do work outside the community to support causes we believe in. Historically this has included many things ranging from protests and direct action to collecting acorns for the Virginia Department of Forestry Nursery to support future tree planting and much more. 
Recently, after a period with no manager of the area and not much being done, new member Ollie has become manager and several people have started doing more activities being funded by Movement Support. ‍
Food Not BombsFood Not Bombs in LouisaLocally, several Twin Oakers and folks from other communities in Louisa county have started a Louisa chapter of Food Not Bombs. This national organization is an all-volunteer movement that recovers food that would otherwise be discarded, and shares free vegan and vegetarian meals with the hungry in over 1,000 cities in 65 countries in protest to war, poverty, and destruction of the environment, and we have, for about two months, been distributing food for free in downtown Louisa every Sunday from 1-2pm. When Ollie mentioned this to long-term member Steve he mentioned that Oakers used to bring food to the Richmond Food not Bombs for several years decades ago.
A little further afield, in the past several months, Movement Support has provided labor credits and travel costs for Twin Oakers to travel to Washington, DC to attend protests in support of a cease-fire in Gaza. Just last week we filled up our 15 person van with Oakers attending the January 13th protest.
Further afield still, Oakers traveled recently to be part of the movement against the Mountain Valley Pipeline in West Virginia. 
Ollie is very excited to be the new manager of this cool area and is really looking forward to helping Oakers out of our little bubble to engage with the world beyond the farm in meaningful ways and to keep fighting oppression everywhere. We’re always looking for new ways for Oakers to participate in movements off the farm, so if you’re organizing in the area and need some friendly communards to help, feel free to contact us!
Coldvember by Jane
‍A few months ago, I was reminiscing on my travels abroad, and remembered one particularly adventurous morning, when I jumped into Galway Bay in Ireland. Dubbed “Coldvember” by the university students there, masses of them jump into the churning ocean waters. I joined in one day, and seeing the pictures made me want to recapture some of that joy and bravery. I put up a note up saying I would be jumping into the pond every morning in November, save Sundays. Most people thought I was crazy, but sure enough, 3 other brave souls joined me that chilly first morning! Overtime, our numbers grew, and on November 8th we had a whopping 9 people in the pond that day. We have shrunk a bit since then, to a core group of 4 or 5. 
The shock of entering the water is instant–some of us like to work our way in slowly, but I find the only way I’m getting in is by sprinting in screaming. I’ve been told we are audible from the courtyard, with one co thinking a chicken slaughter was underway! On the first few days we ran in and out, but recently we’ve stayed in as long as 6 minutes. After about 4 minutes I find my body starts to feel warm, and by the time I exit I’m actually quite comfortable. Getting dressed again is probably the hardest part- the teeth chattering and shaking hands makes it difficult to dry off quickly.
Jane & other brave swimmersAuthor, Jane, on left, and other brave swimmers
So, what’s the purpose of this craziness? Cold plunges have been shown to improve heart rate and circulation, as well as provide some benefit for mental health. It also helps your body acclimate to the cold—I have found I can now walk around easily with a thin winter coat and gloves, whereas I used to struggle to keep myself warm with tons of layers. Other co’s have noted feeling more awake afterwards, and needing less coffee or other substances throughout the day.  
As of writing this, we have three more plunges left. Part of me will miss it- the camaraderie of the group, the feeling of accomplishment every morning, and the clarity of mind that comes with it. Some of us are thinking of continuing the challenge and have dubbed it “Coldcember”. It’s turned into something of a Twin Oaks trend, with co’s who would never dare of jumping in following our progress. Regardless of whether we continue this challenge into December or not, it will certainly be remembered! 
There are definitely some people who would not benefit from cold plunges- the very young or very old, and folks with heart conditions. Check with your doctor and do research before trying it out!‍
State of the Commune by Valerie
Twin Oaks is always a reflection of the mainstream to some extent. What is happening “out there” also happens here. Right now, in the world and in this country, many long-term entities that are somewhat cooperation-based are struggling (eg. US postal service, western democracy) and we are no different. Polarization is more of a cultural force than it has been, creating greater divisiveness and demonization / othering in this country, the wider world, and also at Twin Oaks. Mainstream culture itself is undergoing many changes. We are definitely experiencing the effects of those cultural impacts. 
We’ve had a number of challenges in the community in the last several years, and we are continuing to feel the effects. When the covid pandemic hit, by coincidence we were at low-ish population, and we in ways became like a “medieval plague village” and had no visitors and limited contact with the outside world for some months. We are still recovering from that low population. Somewhat connected to that, as well as the above-mentioned cultural change reasons, our decison-making and organizational / administrative structures are not as robust as they have been (fewer experienced members to join administrative teams, our collective town trips happening less frequently, etc.) Each of our main community businesses are having their own particular challenges and that is affecting our financial situation. Our infrastructure is aging and we have found mold in many of our buildings. There is some tension around how we are moving forward dealing with that mold, partly related to difficulties in our various income areas and community businesses. 
The dynamic between newer, younger members and longer-term, older members has always existed to some extent, but related to the afore-mentioned greater polarization overall, this has become more pronounced here in the last couple of years. A number of other long-term, established communities are reporting similar challenges and changes, and unfortunately, some of them have ceased to function as they have been, and these beacons and models of alternative culture have been lost. 
The good news is we have a great group of current new members—there are a quite a few of them and they are bringing good energy and ideas to the community, so that is a strong support for us. We also have the steadiness and experience of our committed, long-term members. Our population is slowly rising again.  
Also, one potential advantage of this time of less solid structure is that we would like to change some aspects of our culture to become more anti-racist and inclusive. That is easier to do when there is already some “give”, rather than an iron-clad adherence to “how it’s always been”. Our focus during this era of our history is to find ways to maintain and strengthen the parts of Twin Oaks that make us a unique alternative cultural reality, while making changes and responding to cultural changes, current challenges and the needs/wants of current members. 
¡La lucha continua!
Leaves of Twin Oaks #131

Agreements and Policies #8

8: Conflict Resolution Structures

by Raven

As I said in my last post, we are now into the trickier stuff, the stuff folks don’t want to think about, and conflict is the first of those things.  I wrote a piece about Communal Conflict a long time ago and in that piece, and in my piece outlining the Agreements and Policies that we would be covering here, I admitted I’m a conflict avoider.  I don’t like dealing with conflict.  I suspect that few people do.

But this is all the more reason you want to have a policy dealing with conflict resolution in place.  You may hope that you won’t ever need it and, in fact, many conflicts are small and easily resolved, but if there is a major conflict occurring, it will be very hard to get an agreement on a conflict resolution strategy when it is actually happening.  You want to have an agreement on how you will deal with conflicts now so that you have it in place for if and when real conflict occurs.

One thing that is useful in community conflicts (especially if the community is big enough) is that there is often a person or two that is not triggered by the conflict, that does not feel like they need to take sides, and who can mediate, at least somewhat.

It’s useful if the community already agrees to a process, like Nonviolent Communication (aka Compassionate Communication) or taking turns listening and then having the other person restate what they’ve heard.  I’ve heard of groups that make each person argue the other person’s position.  I also knew a couple who when they realized they were in an argument, would continue, only in gibberish.  (Humor often helps.)  Whatever you can get people to agree to now will be useful later, when things get heated.

It’s also important to remember that compromise is important.  Although it is better when each person gets what they need (which may be more possible than you think if you can figure out what the real needs are), there may be times you need to compromise.  It’s part of the tradeoff for living with a bunch of cool people.

Finally, there may be a point where your group has gotten as far as it can.  This is often the place where calling on an outside mediator may help.  An important part of your group’s conflict resolution agreements is to have a list of agreed on people that everyone feels good about being possible mediators.  Someone who is not part of your community is more likely to be able to see all sides of the issue, listen to everyone, and make useful suggestions.

As I said, this is not much fun, but it’s very important.  And there are harder things than conflict.  Next on the list is what to do if violence occurs in your community.

Agreements and Policies #8

A reflection on the evolution of Twin Oaks

By Keenan (from Your Passport to Complaining)

Dining: 

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Llano is crowded, noisy, and filthy and should be condemned.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) ZK sets new standard in luxuriousness and cleanliness at Twin Oaks.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) ZK is crowded, noisy, and filthy and should be condemned. Dining should happen in Llano, but only if it has a less offensive name.

Visitor program:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Visitors housed in SLG’s.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Visitors housed in Aurora.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Visitors housed in SLG’s and Ta Chenerates housed in Aurora.

Degania:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Degania is built for childrens’ program.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Degania abandoned.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Degania used for childrens’ program and then Degania abandoned again.

Technology:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) No video allowed anywhere.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) No video allowed in bedrooms.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) No video allowed in public spaces.

Allowance:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Allowance is .75 cents a month
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Allowance is $35.00 a month
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Allowance is $115.00 a month

Behavior issues:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Behaviorism will deal with any problematic behaviors among members.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Behaviorism doesn’t work. Problematic behavior is dealt with through policy: feedbacks, support groups, process team, mediation, mental health team, and membership team.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) nothing works to change problematic behavior—reject all visitors who exhibit any potentially problematic behavior.

A/C:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Air conditioning kills the planet.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Air conditioning protects equipment, but is not for people.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Air conditioning kills mold and saves lives.

What is offensive: 

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Makeup and shaving are offensive.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Having babies is offensive.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Wrong pronouns are offensive.

Buildings:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Naming buildings after past communal efforts is uplifting and inspirational.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) No new buildings to name.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Naming buildings after past communities with problematic values is offensive.

Children:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) No children until the community is ready.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) The community raises children. Biological parents discouraged from caring for children. Censor children’s books to remove all mention of “mother” or “father.”
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Pregnancy approval process to ensure that parents really want to be parents. Parents raise children.

Labor:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Variable labor system (members work too much).
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Quota is set at 49 (members work too much).
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Quota is set at 42 (members work too much).

Taking a break:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Don’t leave the farm during a hammocks push.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) P.A.L. policy
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) P.A.L., Suspended membership, Emotional LOA, Sabbatical, and Associate Membership.

Building design:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Members reject mainstream building practices, like proper foundations. All building labor comes from Twin Oaks members
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Members accept mainstream building practices and most building labor comes from Twin Oaks members.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Building labor is hired.

Income:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Hammocks is main income source. Concerns about Pier 1 as main account eventually prove accurate.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Tofu is main income source. Concerns about cost of upgrading tofu eventually prove accurate.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Seed Racks is main income source. Concerns…?

Decision-making:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Members involved in all decisions of the community.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Decision-making happens at the managerial level after much community process.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Members are sometimes, but not always, informed of decisions.

Ex-members:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Ex-members are treated like traitors to the values of Twin Oaks.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Ex-members are treated like old friends and welcome to come to parties.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Ex-members buy adjoining property.

Cleanliness:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Cleaning is a bourgeois middle-class affectation that focuses on appearance over substance.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Cleaning with chemicals is bad for the planet.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Mold kills! Scrub everything! Use bleach!

Trees:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) There are no trees near newly built buildings.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Plant trees to provide coolness and shade buildings.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Fight mold! Cut trees near buildings down! 

You are a long term member after…:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) 2 years
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) 5 years
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) 10 years

Longest term member at Twin Oaks:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) McCune
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) McCune
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) McCune

Communal networking:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) Twin Oaks is isolated and focused on survival.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Twin Oaks helps build a national communal movement (Communities magazine, builds FEC, Leaves of Twin Oaks, welcomes national media).
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Twin Oaks helps develop a local network of communities in Louisa County.

Leaving Twin Oaks:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) You get nothing if you leave Twin Oaks.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) You get $50 and a hammock.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) You get nothing if you leave Twin Oaks.

Death:

  • Twin Oaks BETA version) No need for a cemetery.
  • Twin Oaks 2.0) Cemetery in the woods on a hill.
  • Twin Oaks 3.0) Can’t keep track of buried bodies.

This is mainly satire, please don’t message the blamer…also…make your own additions to the evolution of Twin Oaks.

A reflection on the evolution of Twin Oaks