Advice to a New Planner

by Paxus Calta

from Your Passport to Complaining

“We are looking for reluctant leaders.” Twin Oaks founder Kat Kinkade and East Wind Founder Deborah were/are fond of saying.  If you fear corruption or abuse of power, then having people who are leading not excited about the job, or doing it because they are motivated for their care for the collective is a good insurance policy.

The founders of Twin Oaks were deeply concerned about the failures of the existing decision making systems.  So much so they designed their own.  It has stayed in place, largely unchanged for 5 decades now.  It starts with the assumption that simple majorities are dangerous beasts and we can do better than that.  But because the commune was founded in 1967, before feminists secularized the consensus-decision-making process, they did not want to wait until everyone agreed.  Good ideas, headachey to implement.


Near the “top” of this largely flat decision making process are the planners, the communities highest executive power.  I’ve been a planner twice, my Dutch wife Hawina is currently a planner.   Decisions of the planners can be overridden by a simple majority of full members of the community, though this happens less than annually.  [So technically, the membership is at the top of our hierarchy.]

Being a planner is one of our toughest jobs.  Right up there with the membership team and the pets manager.  The membership team is often hard because we don’t have much room for compromise on most membership decisions, you are either accepted into the community, or not (technically you can get a “visit again”, but you get the point).  The pets manager is difficult because you have to tell some kid that that they can not keep the stray dog they just fell in love with or you have to tell some long-term member that the community is not going to pay $4,000 for the surgery their aged cat desperately needs.  Trust me you don’t want this job.

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The plannership is difficult for more complex reasons.  First, is that members’s desires for quick solutions to their pressing problems often result in them rushing to the planners, telling them what is wrong and then being frustrated by them saying either “we are not the people you need to be talking to” (because there is another responsible manager or council) or that their clever solution is not accessible for any of a number of reasons.  Leaving the frustrated member to say “well, if I were planner I would certainly do this”.  Which is generally speaking not even true, because the group of 3 planners works by consensus and tend to protect the institution over the desires of a single agitated member.

However, there are more vexing aspects of the plannership.  When they take on complex and/or expensive issues like how do we spend a quarter of a million dollars to solve the tofu waste water problem, you basically can’t win.  The planners listen to all the manager and experts they can find.  They post papers or run surveys asking for community input, which often receive anemic response.  They slave away trying to make a good choice and then when they announce it, often many people are unhappy with it.

Sometimes they are unhappy and well informed, wishing the planners had taken the path they were advocating instead of the one they selected.  But far more often members are upset  because they have not studied the issue, don’t understand the trade offs and did not get exactly what they wanted.

The big problem is that we are frequently unable to keep the personal away from the political at Twin Oaks.  If the planners did not make the choice I wanted on this controversial and complex issue, I am then angry with them personally.  This results in the nightmare situation where you work hard on balancing many factors, craft what you think is a wise choice with your fellow planners and then you lose friends over it.

This does not always happen of course, but it happens enough that I have some standard advice which I share with every new planner.

There may well be a time when working for the planners puts you in a place where you feel like you need to make a choice “Am I going to take care of the community and push forward with this difficult decision or am I going to take care of myself and my relationships with other members?”  If you find yourself in this situation, take care of yourself and quit the job.

People who know me might be surprised at this recommendation.  I go to a lot of meetings.  I often joke that I am “a bureaucrat for the revolution”.  How can I be recommending people walk away from their top executive job, just when the community needs them to help shepherd in a decision?

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Turns out it is easy.  We will make a decision, even if you are not a planner.  But if the plannership is risking you burning out, or damaging your personal relationships within the community, then the cost is too high.  Hopefully you will live here for many years after your plannership.  If you have alienated or pissed off important relationships within the community, it can be the feather (or brick) which tilts the balance in favor of you leaving the commune.  Or potentially worse, staying regretting that you have lost these friends and allies.

I have given this advice enough and talked with planners who have taken it and not. So there is an important follow up: if you do decide to quit the plannership to take care of yourself, don’t guilt trip yourself about it.  I believe over half of planners do not complete their 18 month terms.  Policy prohibits someone being a planner twice in a row, but in the 20 plus years I have been at Twin Oaks, no planner has expressed a desire to immediately do a second term.

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The institution is quite durable.  Sometimes the right thing to is to abandon the process (and often the job) and instead prioritize your long term relations with  your friends and the commune.

Advice to a New Planner

The Twin Oaks Wastewater Project

by Raven East Brook

When I was down at Twin Oaks for the Social Technology Conference and the FEC Assembly, I couldn’t help but be aware of the work that was going on creating a drainfield for the tofu wastewater.

This is hopefully the ending phase of a five year upgrade to Twin Oaks’ tofu factory.  This post contains some pictures that I snapped while I was at the community as well as some that are taken from the Twin Oaks Facebook page.

The overall plans
Plans for stabilization ponds
Creating specially engineered drainfield lines
The ponds under construction
Another view of the tarped ponds
Storage tanks
The pretreatment tanks going in


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The Twin Oaks Wastewater Project

Twin Oaks New Year Slide

from the Commune Life Instagram account:

Twin Oaks New Year Slide

Twin Oaks Tofu Upgrade

from the Twin Oaks facebook page:
TOFU WASTEWATER. Construction is now moving ahead quickly on the urgently needed tofu whey wastewater handling project. This part of the project involves specially engineered drainfield lines.


from the Commune Life facebook page:

Upgrades to Twin Oaks Community Foods tofu factory have been going on for over five years. There have been many hiccups along the way, but the project is finally reaching its conclusion. One of the major roadblocks this year has been the surprise need for a more robust wastewater management facility. Construction is just beginning on this critical piece.


Twin Oaks Tofu Upgrade

Not That Hard:The They/Them Song

Julia and Brooke from Twin Oaks got stuck in traffic on their way to pick up some cooking oil for a big dumpster meal they were cooking for HONK! Festival  and decided to make some music while they waited.

This song is called “Not That Hard” and was written by Julia Amanita and features Brooke Courtemanche.

Here are the lyrics:

You say you’re not able
But you say, “Who left their shit on the table?
I wish they would take their shit away.”
But see, you just used the singular “they.”

It’s not that hard
You just want it to be
So you can justify seeing me
How you want to see me
If you said it three times in a row
You would know

They/them they/them they/them
A singular human
Rejecting a restrictive role
For a moving point on the gender spectrum

You say it’s too awkward
Asking people’s pronouns just feels absurd
You say it doesn’t fit in dialogue
But you ask strangers on the street the gender of their dog

It’s not that hard
You just want it to be
So you can justify seeing me
How you want to see me
If you said it three times in a row
You would know

They/them they/them they/them
One person against the system
Making people women and men

As a divide and conquer strategy against a rebellious peasant population
To elicit the help of men in the subjugation of women
To piece us out one by one for direct control and supervision
No control over your life but control over your wife
A sick consolation prize to tie men to the propertied class and privilege their position
So that unpaid feminized labor can reproduce daily life
Under capitalism

You say it’s no fun
You want to make assumptions the way you’ve always done
It’s the minimum standard of human decency
So get with the program and stop calling me “she”

It’s not that hard
You just want it to be
So you can justify seeing me
How you want to see me
If you said it three times in a row
You would know

They/them they/them they/them
The switch in your brain can totally happen
Practice makes perfect and perfect is then
Seeing me as who I really am

Not That Hard:The They/Them Song

Bonfires, Mushrooms, Cats, and Cults

Autumn at the communes.

From the Commune Life Instagram account

Bonfires, Mushrooms, Cats, and Cults