Not That Hard:The They/Them Song

Julia and Brooke from Twin Oaks got stuck in traffic on their way to pick up some cooking oil for a big dumpster meal they were cooking for HONK! Festival  and decided to make some music while they waited.

This song is called “Not That Hard” and was written by Julia Amanita and features Brooke Courtemanche.

Here are the lyrics:

You say you’re not able
But you say, “Who left their shit on the table?
I wish they would take their shit away.”
But see, you just used the singular “they.”

It’s not that hard
You just want it to be
So you can justify seeing me
How you want to see me
If you said it three times in a row
You would know

They/them they/them they/them
A singular human
Rejecting a restrictive role
For a moving point on the gender spectrum

You say it’s too awkward
Asking people’s pronouns just feels absurd
You say it doesn’t fit in dialogue
But you ask strangers on the street the gender of their dog

It’s not that hard
You just want it to be
So you can justify seeing me
How you want to see me
If you said it three times in a row
You would know

They/them they/them they/them
One person against the system
Making people women and men

As a divide and conquer strategy against a rebellious peasant population
To elicit the help of men in the subjugation of women
To piece us out one by one for direct control and supervision
No control over your life but control over your wife
A sick consolation prize to tie men to the propertied class and privilege their position
So that unpaid feminized labor can reproduce daily life
Under capitalism

You say it’s no fun
You want to make assumptions the way you’ve always done
It’s the minimum standard of human decency
So get with the program and stop calling me “she”

It’s not that hard
You just want it to be
So you can justify seeing me
How you want to see me
If you said it three times in a row
You would know

They/them they/them they/them
The switch in your brain can totally happen
Practice makes perfect and perfect is then
Seeing me as who I really am

Not That Hard:The They/Them Song

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s