Ayn Rand hates Twin Oaks

from Keenan’s Twin Oaks blog Jan 29, 2012

 

Ayn Rand when she first hears about Twin Oaks

Ayn Rand drives me nuts!  Her philosophy of greed and selfishness is antithetical to everything I do and believe. But imagine my shock when I  discovered a few weeks ago that the feeling is mutual. In the midst of one of my Ayn Rand rants, Kristen told me that Ayn Rand specifically mentioned Twin Oaks as a failed philosophy in an article. Really!?

I googled “Ayn Rand, Twin Oaks” and there it was–a reference to her book, Philosophy: Who needs it where Ayn Rand  criticizes Twin Oaks–for two pages!  This world-famous philosopher of selfishness, greed, and individualism singles out Twin Oaks community as a bastion of the failed philosophy of egalitarianism and cooperation.  Hallelujah!  That is about the highest praise that Twin Oaks may ever receive! She ends her screed on Twin Oaks with this sentence:  “For my comments on this [why Twin Oaks will fail], see Atlas Shrugged.”

So I did. Atlas Shrugged is Ayn Rand’s magnum Opus. A 1066 page best-selling novel that describes the societal collapse that would ensue if the 40 or 50 most competent people in the world went on strike. Ironically, about two-thirds of the way into the novel these gifted elite gather together on Galt’s Gulch,  a “Utopia of Greed,” which sounds a lot like an off-the-grid survivalist commune. Maybe commune isn’t the right word since the communards say “We’re just a voluntary association of men held together by nothing but every man’s self interest.”  

Welcome to Galt’s Gulch!

From the conservapedia:

However, the Gulch had several unwritten customs which arose as a reaction to the  things that the residents sought to rest from. No one ever remained in the Gulch at another person’s expense, nor asked nor granted any unremunerated favors. Every resident was expected to pay his rent, or else pay room and board to the leaseholder of any house in which he stayed. Similarly, no one ever “borrowed” something belonging to another; instead one rented it and was expected to negotiate a rent with the owner…[as] an example of “resting” from the constant stress of living in a society in which one’s fellow citizens constantly demanded certain things of one and expressed no willingness to pay for those things.

Other than these details, Ayn Rand doesn’t bother to describe how greedy, self-interested capitalists would actually structure their little utopia.  This may be why Ayn Rand goes out of her way to pick on Twin Oaks–because  the founders of Twin Oaks were inspired by the behaviorist, B.F. Skinner.  Behaviorism,  as described by B.F. Skinner, was a philosophy of how to control human behavior.  Since Ayn Rand believed any constraint on individual behavior was immoral,  she deplored behaviorism.

B.F. Skinner wished to illuminate how his behaviorist principles could be implemented so he, too, wrote a novel ,Walden Two, describing a  group of people living in a communal utopia.  In B.F. Skinner’s case the communards are living according to behaviorist principles.

In 1967 Kat Kinkade and a handful of other people were inspired enough by Walden Two  to set out and actually set up a behaviorist utopia. This group bought land and began bringing Dr. Skinner’s ideals to fruition. That is what set Ayn Rand off; she was seething that a theoretician who she fundamentally opposed had real people setting up real experiments to prove his theory.

For all of Ayn Rand’s ire, Twin Oaks was never able to implement Skinner’s theories.  The details of how to actually control human behavior weren’t covered in  Walden Two. In fact, it turns out that human behavior is far too complex to set up contingencies of reinforcement for every possible behavior. Psychology students touring Twin Oaks inevitably come away disappointed at the abandonment of Behaviorism.

These days if you google “Galt’s Gulch, ” a housing development in Argentina comes up. Why are there no attempts among Ayn Rand’s acolytes  to create a utopia of greed? Here’s why: her fundamental theories of human nature are fiction and will always and only exist in the realm of fiction. There can be no real world experiment because real people choosing how to live together will never choose “selfishness”  as the core concept around which to coalesce.

Ayn Rand’s name has been in the news of late because of the recent meltdown of the economy.  Many of the captains of industry are followers of the theories of Ayn Rand. In her writings, Ayn Rand goes on and on about “looters,”  bureaucrats who take the wealth of hard-working people without having earned it.  What has been revealed in the most recent economic crash in disturbing detail is that successful capitalists can be the worst looters, taking the accumulated wealth of hard-working homeowners and then tossing them out of their houses and then re-selling the empty houses.  Alan Greenspan, ex Fed chairman and an uncritical disciple of Ayn Rand, finally admitted that maybe Ayn Rand’s theories (that had been guiding his approach to the global economy) were incorrect. Thanks, Al.
I had to fly down to Florida and  so on a whim I picked  up a copy of Harvard Business Review. I was pleased and stunned that in article after article the basic premises of Ayn Rand were challenged.  I mean, the Harvard Business Review…

The editors of HBR write, “…emerging research from neuroscience, psychology, and economics makes the link between a thriving workforce and better business performance absolutely clear. Happiness can have an impact at both the company and the country level.”

Bruno S. Frey and Margit Osterloh write, “The evidence keeps growing that pay for performance is ineffective.”

Christopher Meyer and Julia Kirby write, “The overall objective  of commerce in society was then, like now, to better people’s welfare…Today 41 countries have initiatives under way related to measuring happiness  [as an alternative to GDP]… [I really love this next one] the effect of empowering alpha competitors is not to make an economy more competitive [Take THAT Ayn Rand!]…Capitalism can evolve and center on new pursuits…competition…moves over for collaboration…Suppose capitalism really centered on the pursuit of value–the greatest good for the greatest number.”

Rosabeth Moss Kanter  writes “IBM, P&G, PepsiCo, and many other companies are aligning enduring value with social good.”  Wait a minute!  I know her! Rosabeth Moss Kanter wrote a book back in the seventies about communes, Commitment and Community,  where she devoted a whole chapter to Twin Oaks and why it is doomed to fail because Twin Oaks doesn’t have the right culture to get people to commit and stay.  (Ironic that Twin Oaks’ turnover has slowed to a trickle.) Now she is a professor of business at Harvard. This is getting spooky! Why do all these political/social theorists go out of their way to pick on Twin Oaks?

It’s a pink book .

Anyway, there is hope for the world if even  hard-core capitalists have abandoned Ayn Rand’s theories. Her theories can’t stand up to the bright light of empirical analysis. And yet the application of those theories has been the impetus for much global  destruction of capital and general misery.

Twin Oaks, despite Ayn Rand’s prediction is thriving; Ayn Rand was wrong about Twin Oaks.  Ayn Rand also was wrong about human nature.  Attempting to sculpt a world, little or big, based on greed and selfishness will only ever result in failure and human misery. Let us hope that Ayn Rand’s theories will soon be tossed into the compost bin of history.

Meetings, Meetings, Meetings

Photos from the DC community

(Thanks to Steve and GPaul)

Connor tells it like it is so hard his fingers blur!

Ascension Day! The meeting at which AC*DC officially began… after two plus years of work.

Point A DC folks and Joseph from Sandhill and some group house friends relaxing at a game night.

One of Point A DC’s first event, “Let’s Do It Better Together”, featured a bunch of parallel conversations, this one on income sharing.

Point A DC has its first event of the summer talking about why communes are important and what stands in the way of people joining them with members of AC*DC, Twin Oaks, Acorn, Cambia, and the Chocolate Factory and curious potential communards to be.

What communities can learn from marriage therapy

by Gil (from Cambia)

There are very few disciplines in psychology that could claim much success.  The obvious one would be advertising and other forms of brainwashing. The next one, surprisingly, is a marriage therapy.

In an awkwardly mathematical and computerized manner, a psychologist and a mathematician at the University of Washington have studied newlyweds for many decades and essentially “cracked the code” on what predicts divorce. Their “formula” can predict with 95% accuracy whether newlyweds would stay together or break up in a span of the following seven years. The following article is mostly a repetition of their main findings loosely translated to communal living situation.

Prelude:

Communities, like marriage, can fall apart for many different reasons, but there is one thing that can serve as immunization against most of those reasons, and that is love. And I don’t simply mean the feeling of love, I mean the practice of it. Couples and communities can have a lot of love between them, but if there is no effective way or circumstances of expressing and acting in a loving affectionate way, the relationship will be doomed. The question is, “What stands in the way of expressing and acting from love?”

     1. Stay committed

              a. This is an important but tricky one to translate: uncommitted relationships gradually drift apart once the honeymoon phase is gone.

              b. While people are community members, provide and expect full commitment. This is commitment to their well-being, to being respected and understood, to participating fully. Avoid thinking: “We don’t need to deal with her issues.  She’s probably going to leave soon anyway.”  Even if not for her sake, other people will hear this attitude and will reduce their commitment to each other.

      2. The four horsemen of the apocalypse/ Four ways of relating that were found to be particularly corrosive to relationships:

                  a. Contempt: Displays of disdain, hatred, ridicule, disrespect, or eye-rolling are found to be the most destructive expressions in relationships.

                  b. Defensiveness: The unwillingness to accept critique, to be curious about the other person’s perspective, and instead aggressively deflecting blame or reacting with counter-blame.

                   c. Stonewalling: Ignoring, or otherwise checking out in a conversation.

                  d. Criticism: Criticizing people’s personalities, traits, preferences, looks or anything else that they can’t really change. Focusing on critique of actions or consequences is probably more accurate and effective.

      3. The 5 to 1 ratio of positivity to negativity: Every negative expression needs at least 5 positive expressions to balance it out. Otherwise, people enter an emotional debt and recession. Here are some ways of expressing positivity. These are to be applied to any members of the community and, the less you know them, the better to do these.

                a. Show interest: Be curious, try to get to know members in your community, ask questions aimed at simply knowing other people more. They might be surprised but will be flattered. Listen attentively, and say things like: “I was thinking about what you said the other day and wanted to understand it more…”

               b. Be affectionate: Touch, smile, say: “Yay! You’re back!” when someone returns, make something for someone.   You get the point…

                  c. Show you care: Ask ,“Did you feel resolved after the meeting?” and “I was wondering how you felt when…”

               d. Gratitude: Show appreciation to other people as well as pointing to anything that you all share, like, “I love that we have a garden now” and “There is an angel that keeps taking out the compost.  Whoever you are, I love you.”

                e. Be accepting: Accept peoples quirks, preferences, idiosyncrasies, or even bad habits. It’s okay to despise video games but love it that some people get to bond around them. Even when you have an endless list of everything that’s wrong with the meat or tobacco industries, don’t transfer that judgement to the individuals who are consuming them. You can say: “I think its absolutely wrong to keep consuming them, but I don’t love you any less for doing that.” This does not mean that you have to accept people’s mean behavior.   That’s different.

     4. Recognize irreconcilable differences and stop trying to fix them. Learn to live with them instead. That’s right. Some differences are irreconcilable.  People will not and should not change some beliefs, habits, attitudes, etc. It’s important to realize when things cannot or should not change, and stop wasting energy and generating hostility around them. For example, one member can be very forgetful, and actually forget that they are forgetful. After 3 times of forgetting to close up the chicken coop at night, you might want to ask them: “What’s wrong with you??? Why are you so inconsiderate?” Alternately, you accept that they’re forgetful and leave a special loving note with a special drawing just for them. Or something cute rather than passive aggressive.

      5. Implement repair mechanisms. Have you ever noticed how nobody asks you for “I statements” when you give them a compliment? It’s fine to stay to say, “You’re fantastic” rather than “I feel like I’m in a fantasy when I’m around you.”  It is important to implement NVC and other peaceful languages when there’s a conflict, but is rather cumbersome and even creepy otherwise. I could be wrong, but that’s how I feel. If person A hurt person B, the least that could happen is that person A could
acknowledge person B’s pain, express feeling bad about it to person C if they can’t do it to person A, and have person C reflecting feeling compassion to A’s predicament. Even if the whole thing was A’s fault to begin with, it’s important to try to remain curious and open, even in conflict. Ask something like, “I see you’re upset at what I did, could you say more about what upset you?” You get much more “street cred” for a compassionate apology than for proving you were right.

      6. Change “I” statements into “we” statements. There might not be very many appropriate opportunities for this, and it might be particularly difficult to do given the hyper-individualistic tendency of our subculture but, when possible, use the terms “we” and “us” when talking about the future, about hopes, about gratitude, etc. For example: say, “I’m grateful that WE have a garden” rather than “I’m grateful to have a garden”. Or “We could have close to zero waste some day” rather than “I want to live in a place that doesn’t generate trash”. “We are doing much better than the mainstream” rather than “Nobody here is worse than the mainstream”. Also,
make a flag, make up songs about your community. But as in item 6, its best to abandon this generalizing language when the content is negative.

        7. Have fun with everyone, no matter what you do: research on millions of cases of divorce demonstrates quite clearly that it is not the economic necessity of staying together that protects against divorce. Rather, it is the abundance of quality fun shared time that predicts success. In other words, the efficiency of living together cannot compensate for the lack of love-building quality time together. Budget for fun, both with time, labor, and money. Every minute you spend on building trust and love, saves you 10 minutes of conflict resolution later.

Baltimore protest update

by  Darla, originally published May 2nd, 2015 on the Acorn Community blog

The Baltimore Free Farm put out a call for help from nearby communities to help cook for the protests and marches against the murder of Freddie Gray. Acornistas, Twin Oakers, the Wingnut Collective, affiliates of New Community Project, The Keep, and several other collectives responded by sending several cars and vans crammed to the gills with people, food, equipment, donations, and prepared food from those who couldn’t go.

As we entered the city of Baltimore, we were greeted by the foreboding sight of the M&T bank stadium  serving as a stand in military base, with army jeeps,  military personnel, helicopters, and jail buses filling it.

 We also passed several burnt out businesses, such as this CVS, only heightening our state of apprehension.

Once we landed at BFF, we immediately begun hauling in our goods and set to work cooking. We cooked hotel pan after hotel pan of vegan food to bring to the marches that afternoon. With our food lined up and ready to serve, throngs of hungry demonstrators came to refuel.

We got word that there were at least a hundred cars stopped in the road about a quarter mile away.  Soon thereafter, the streets started to pour with protesters in a march. Lots of solders with automatic weapons.

As we marched through baltimore, people congregated at their stoops or out their windows, some looking, some cheering on. Cars honking, drivers raising fists, eliciting renewed cheers and pumped fists to the air from marchers. A Boltbus drove by honking wildly, followed by a dump truck drive, similarly showing solidarity.

Above military personnel can be seen in their omnipresence behind Twin Oaker Edmund.

So many people responded to the request to help cook bring so much food that all the ovens on site plus the wood fired pizza oven have been in use almost nonstop. We even set up additional counter space and some propane cookers, as seen above. Today we have already served meals four times, with one more serving for curfew breakers later on tonight.

 A photographer scaled the metro  station for a better shot, triggering a flood of people who also wanted a better view.

Above, people have gathered once again the raise their voices in chants, at the corner of North and Pennsylvania, the site of former racial profiling and police brutality.
Below are a few signs that caught my attention.

More Pictures from East Wind

(with many thanks to Jude and Rejoice)

A Look Behind the Scenes in DC

by GPaul

A little while ago, while the DC communards were still scattered between a few different houses, a fellow member of the as-yet-unnamed DC commune shot me this quick note:

Hey, I liked this article that you wrote: http://frompointa.org/blog/2016/02/15/a-busy-month-for-the-dc-crew/.

It occurred to me that a blog article that peeks behind-the-scenes at what policies we’re working on, why and how the discussion/consensus/writing process works, would be interesting. Especially for people who would consider starting a commune. And for people who are like, “So what are you DOING? What is the ‘work’ that you keep talking about?”

I thought about this because when one of your housemates and I were chatting in the car today, they were like “GPaul keeps talking about all the work people are doing for Point A, but I don’t get it. What is the work?” And they live with us.

A little embarrassing, certainly, but to be fair the work of starting a commune is varied and non-obvious. In fact, even people planning on starting communes or really almost any sort of intentional community, frequently underestimate how much work goes into organizing them. The general advice from the intentional communities world is that any group trying to organize an IC of any significant complexity should plan on putting in one full person-year of work on it. In theory this can be done equitably by all the future members of the community but most advisors recommend paying one or two people to focus all their time on it. The communes have another option open to them, of course, which is to gift the labor time of one or more of their own communards to the task of organizing a new commune. This is a big part of how Twin Oaks started East Wind and Acorn and how Acorn started Sapling and assisted in the founding of Living Energy Farm. And most recently it is how Acorn assisted us in the founding of the first Point A DC commune.

A little peek behind the curtain. What strange magic are these communards up to?

So what does all this work look like? What takes a person-year’s worth of focused attention and labor? Here’s a partial list patched together from what occupied my time for year or so of organizing that I put in before the commune launched and other members started taking over a lot of the work (which is, of course, the goal for a horizontal democratic commune).

• Develop a pitch (or vision) for the commune that is both viable, inspiring, specific enough that people can imagine what it would be like but at the same time open ended enough that they can see room within it for their down dreams and schemes.
• Identify and individually recruit the initial group.
• Write, design, and produce fingerbooks, pamphlets, business cards, and a website to get the word out.
• Plan agendas, draft agreements, organize events, bring in speakers, check in with initial group to work through concerns and make sure that the project is engaging for them and that they feel inspired and invited.
• Keep doing that for a long time.
• Talk about what sort of property you want and can afford, go looking for it, follow up on leads, research potential properties, talk to owners.
• Research legal issues specific to your city.
• Research legal options for your group to incorporate or organize.
• Research tax implications for your legal organization.
• Continue recruiting, organizing events, checking in with people, drafting agreements, organizing meetings, attending meetings.
• Plan social events and trust building events between prospective members.
• Then do them.
• Get involved, under the banner of your commune, in groups and efforts and events that you want to be engaged with and that you want to be engaged with you.
• Cook food for meetings and events.
• Clean up after meetings and events.
• Look after the kids.
• Mediate conflicts between potential members.
• Research financing and funding options and then pursue them, either by wooing individuals or institutions.
• Don’t completely neglect your own needs.
• Write blog posts.

Surprisingly complicated for such a simple goal: can’t we all just get along?

Debbie’s Trip to Possibility Alliance

from the Living Energy Farm February – March -April 2016 Newsletter

In early April, Debbie and Nika attended a gathering at the Possibility Alliance in northeast Missouri. The gathering brought together about 80 activists and community organizers dedicated to fighting climate change by creating a network of Centers for Liberation: communities and sustainable living centers working for a just, equitable transition away from fossil fuels and towards community resiliency. Represented at the gathering were nine existing centers (including LEF). A few of them are established groups already living without fossil fuels, including the Possibility Alliance; Be the Change in Reno, Nevada; and the Downstream Project in Harrisonburg VA.

A few other urban projects focus on community organizing, education and social justice while working towards liberation from fossil fuels, including TILT (Taos Initiative for Life Together) in Taos New Mexico, Casa de Paz in Oakland CA, and Vine and Fig (formerly New Community Project) in Harrisonburg VA. Also represented were Carnival de Resistance, a traveling liberation center that sets up a fossil-fuel-free camp in different city every year, and two new projects in northern California and Vermont, which both have land and are working on establishing fossil-fuel-free infrastructure.

It was exciting and encouraging to tap into this network of dedicated folks who recognize the urgency of the climate crisis and the need to act now to create a just and sustainable future. This network will make all of our work more effective, by linking the experience and skill sets of folks who have been living off the grid for years, like the Possibility Alliance and LEF, with the outreach capabilities of the urban centers, which will make our work more relevant to people who will be most adversely impacted by climate upheavals to come.

Acorn’s Land Day

by Glynis

Excited for big Land Day anniversary

Goat kid decides it doesn’t need trampoline

How many hippies does it take to put up a tent?

With some good old efficient commune teamwork, not many.

And some of them even smile while they’re putting up the tent.

Proud Mother of a Communard

by Aurora DeMarco

“What should young people do with their lives today? Many things, obviously. But the most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.”

― Kurt Vonnegut, Palm Sunday: An Autobiographical Collage

It happens all the time.  Someone will ask me what my 23 year old daughter is doing with her life and I respond proudly that she is living in a commune down in Virginia.  Many people take an interest and want to learn more about this alternative life path, but then there are those who will say something like, “Don’t worry.  This is just a phase.  She’ll go back to college.” Could it be that these folks cannot imagine that I truly respect her choice to live according to her values and more importantly, I love that she seems so happy with her choices?

When my daughter decided to join Twin Oaks, a long established, egalitarian income sharing community in Louisa, Virginia, I was not surprised, given her frustrations with college.

Up until then she had been following the script of pursuing a standard education as a ticket to a fulfilling life.  She, along with many of her friends, had been a very good student.  When she graduated from Edward R. Murrow High School, she racked up an impressive collection of awards and accommodations.  The only problem was that she was not happy with her life and was not hopeful for her future.

It seemed like many in her generation were just burnt out.  They were tired of the competition and ached for more meaningful connection.  Many of her friends were suffering from anxiety disorders, depression and addictive behaviors.  By the end of her sophomore year she ached to get out of the grind and engage in real world experience.  Many of her older friends graduating from prestigious colleges were in massive debt with little hope of getting work that fulfilled their career aspirations. She was not enjoying the classroom experience and was frustrated with “the jumping through hoops” mentality,  finding the academics subpar and uninspiring.  So she decided to drop out of college.  When she told me she was quitting school I could understand why.

All along I had a vague sense that we adults were not doing right by our children.

In his book,  The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom About Children and Parenting, Alfie Kohn writes:

“When we set children against one another in contests—from spelling bees to awards assemblies to science “fairs” (that are really contests), from dodge ball to honor rolls to prizes for the best painting or the most books read—we teach them to confuse excellence with winning, as if the only way to do something well is to outdo others.”

In the affluent neighborhood where I was raising my kids, it seemed like life for children was a call to perform and one competition right after another.  Parents seemed to treat their kids like hood ornaments that they could brag about.  “Show us your grades, show us your accomplishments” seemed to be the ethos of my privileged  Brooklyn neighborhood.  I always felt uncomfortable with it, but since she did well (i.e she got good grades and racked up her accomplishments) I reluctantly went along.

Instinctively, however, I knew there was something deeply misguided about the New York City Education system.  High stakes testing was emphasized and determined what schools she could apply to.  She was also part of the No Child Left Behind Generation. This put enormous pressure on her teachers to churn out good test takers often at the expense of making learning uninspiring and meaningless to her and her classmates. She often felt frustrated by the skill and drill education forced on she and her classmates. Schools started to function more like corporations rather than bringing out each child’s individual best.  There was a “show us your bottom line” mentality. Her teachers were visibly frustrated that they were not allowed to teach the way they wanted to and this instilled in her a general sense that the people in charge of her education did not know what they were doing.

It seemed like many of our systems from politics, to economics, to health care, to higher education, were more about making a profit than serving people.  Corporate greed seemed to trump human need and this problem pervaded many areas of our society. She, like many of her peers, identified strongly with the Occupy Movements and she is among the many young people supporting the revolutionary themes of the  Bernie Sanders’ campaign.

After completing two years of college, she set out to find a community that would support her commitment to living sustainably, connecting with the earth on a spiritual level, and supporting her egalitarian cooperative values.  After a brief stint in a spiritual community in the Berkshires, she decided to become a member of Twin Oaks, an intentional community founded in the late 1960’s. Her initial reports were tentative, “Is this how I want to live my life?” “Can I imagine making my life with these strangers and their unfamiliar norms?”  By the end of her 3 week visitor period, she decided she wanted to apply for membership. As I drove her down to begin her new life at Twin Oaks, she still was questioning her decision. When we got there she proceeded to cry sitting on what would become her new bed. “What am I doing here?” she asked.

It didn’t take long for her feelings of uncertainty to change.  When we spoke on the phone a week later, she was enjoying herself, adjusting to her new community, forming relationships and exploring her spiritual connections to the land and community.  Her desire to get out of the classroom and learn in more hands-on ways seemed to be satiated and the anxiety and depression which had plagued her since middle school lifted. She liked being part of a community that emphasized alternative sexualities and she fully embraced the importance of consent culture. This was in stark contrast to the many horror stories about date rape and sexual harassment that she had already witnessed by the time she was 20 years old.

She was learning a new way of relating and developing new skills, from gardening, to cooking, to making tofu, to child and elder care.  She quickly took on planning positions and became the manager of food processing. Because Twin Oaks is income-sharing and egalitarian, at the age of 21 she was fully economically independent from her father and me.  She had her own health care insurance and steady work.  In a real world setting that depended on her to pull her own weight by managing the labor demands of a community of 100 people, she was learning  how to work cooperatively.  She is also learning many different things from many different people, both members at Twin Oaks and visitors from around the world.

When I visited her for the first time,  she was solid in her decision and a true believer in simple, sustainable, communal living.  I left that visit happy for her and more than just a little envious.  I pulled out of the Twin Oaks roadway, passing the fenced in cows and lovely vegetable gardens, wishing that I too could find my tribe and live communally.  I also wanted to live according to my values and to be part of a movement that challenged the wasteful isolation of the typical consumer-driven middle class lifestyle.

At the time, I was in graduate school studying for my Masters in Social Work and every chance I got I wrote and spoke about building community as the antidote to many of our social ills. Shortly thereafter I decided to move to Ganas, an intentional community on Staten Island, with my 12 year old daughter.

Ultimately we parents want our children to be happy.  It always plagued me that I felt uneasy about the environment I was raising my kids in.

A great deal of lip service is paid to the idea that “it takes a village” to raise our children.  However, when there is scarcity and have and have nots, this devolves quickly into looking out for one’s own and a feeling of isolation and emptiness.  So many of my daughter’s peers seemed accomplished, but were unhappy.  I wonder what it would have been like for them to have been raised in a more cooperative culture?  I can’t know for sure, but I suspect that more time would have been devoted to learning how to build sustainable connection rather than collecting gold stars.

The Best Parts of America

by Paxus Calta (reprinted from Your Passport to Complaining, September 7, 2011)

Part of my job is networking.  With some regularity, someone sends me a request like, “I am riding across the US (visiting each state in the lower 48) on a solar powered trike that I have constructed; what are all the cool communities I should stop at?”

Reasonable people would simply flee from such a broad question.  There are too many answers requiring too much explanation and detail.  Of course, I am sharing my reply to show off how unreasonable I am.

Dearest Alexander:

Were I doing what you are doing, the places I would stop include:

Twin Oaks/Acorn/LEF communities in Louisa, Virginia. LEF is a post-fossil fuel start up. (I call these dark green eco-villages.)

Possibility Alliance: NE Missouri community is also a dark green eco-village, with a super radical internal gifting economy and all volunteer labor system.

The NEMO communities (North East Missouri)  Dancing Rabbit, Sandhill Farm, Red Earth Farm are all within a few miles of each other. Three different flavors of very low ecological impact intentional communities.

East Wind in the Ozarks of Missouri. This anarcho-democratic community is income sharing and runs its own businesses. It is a bit like the wild wild west of the Egalitarian secular communities movement-  low work obligation, very high respect for personal freedom, high levels of personal drama.

Emma Goldman Finishing School in Seattle, WA. Urban, activist, income sharing community.

All of these can be contacted through some front door via the internet, except the Possibility Alliance, which is actually, in my opinion, the most important place on this list. They can be reached at 660-332-4094.

There are a couple of other pieces of advice I would give you after a brief scan of your website.  The first is that you should look at couchsurfing.com, which will likely help with free housing en route. The second is that you should investigate attitudes and approaches to begging.  You will need to finance/support this trip through the people you meet, mostly having them open their places to you.  “I am going to save the world, let me stay on your couch” turns out to be a turn off.  “I have funny stories to tell and will clean your dishes” will likely get you far better results.

Good luck, be brilliant.